Therapy helped in many ways, but it also made some things worse, including my overall belief in what may still be possible for the rest of my life.
It stated with the revelation that all of my goals are still effort and I probably won’t enjoy the work involved and success. That obvious statement surprised me that it made sense. If I don’t like work then I won’t like good work either. It’s not really so much that I don’t like work, it’s that I don’t do it well and it’s a source of frustration more often than a source of pride and happiness.
After that I started thinking about goals a little bit differently. I also started to realize that I’m nowhere near as good at things as I thought I was. One of the things that must be hard for these newer generations is the obvious online competition for absolutely anything that they might find fun or interesting. The people already doing it are frequently spectacular. People who used to be inspired to want to be that, instead give up thinking that can never be that good.
I have been dealing with my if you can’t be perfect, why try attitude. It was a major discovery but noveled my life in a way that allowed me to quit easily. The online world seems to have developed this game where the most followers win. I should be happy with a few fans I can make smile. It’s taking some time to adjust.
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This is found text from probably 5 or 6 years ago.
Therapy has been really helpful in many ways, but it also brought up some challenges, like affecting my overall belief in what’s still possible for the rest of my life. It all started with the realization that all of my goals require effort, and I probably won’t enjoy the work involved in achieving success. This was kind of obvious, but it really surprised me at the time. If I don’t like the work, then I won’t like the good work either. It’s not that I don’t like work, it’s just that I don’t do it well, and it’s more of a source of frustration than pride and happiness. After that, I started thinking about my goals in a different way and also realized that I’m not as good at things as I thought I was. One of the things that must be hard for younger generations is the intense online competition for anything they might find fun or interesting. The people already doing it are often really amazing, and it can be discouraging for those who aspire to be like them. I’ve been grappling with an “if you can’t be perfect, why try” attitude. It was a big realization that has made me want to give up easily. The online world seems to have turned everything into a game where the most followers win. I’m trying to remind myself that I should be happy with a few fans who I can make smile. It’s taking some time to adjust, but I’m getting there.
