I saw a Facebook real this morning that talked about ADHD people being targeted by cults because of their need for feeling connected and other various reasons. I commented that I would join a cult in a minute and several people liked it as a comment fairly quickly. 

The truth is I believe that cults are kind of cool. The word cult might have negative connotations and that’s intentional but to the idea of a community is still one of my favorite concepts in our universe. 

I have often said that the greatest invention of all time was church and the worst invention of all time was religion but the idea of gathering together weekly in nice clothes and listening to people or a person talk about life and purpose and anything of interest really with an added bonus of occasionally having bake sales or community theater or whatever it’s a great idea. It’s the absolute nature that religion attached to that that made it as much occult as any of the other religions that they call out. 

I think a cult is just a word for competition to religion. It’s a bad thing because it might be better than the existing bad thing. 

Of course a lot of cults are bad things in themselves and they cult leaders are just there too gain a following and a small portion of the wealth that the religions take claim to, without taxes for some reason which always amazed me. 

This started me on a thinking path about what my cult would be without the Kool-Aid drinking everyone dies final end game. I have often said I believe the world is ready for a church/religion / cult that you could join without having to lie to yourself about the origin story and have a secret handshake or phrase that identifies you and lets you into the bake sale. 

And today of course colts don’t have to actually meet in person because the online world offers many opportunities that have no overhead costs and can reach anyone in any area of the world. They would still offer the same kind of community and support and friendship and a belonging combined with lectures or sermons or TED talks or whatever you want to call them. 

I’m not sure about the rules that religion arbitrarily defines as necessary. Most of them are restricting freedoms or going against logic just to set them apart from the people not in your cult. It’s a weird concept that seems to have caught on, again intentionally in order to control the masses and retain that control. A lot of them also allow for a feeling of superiority because I can eat pork and you can’t or something equally ridiculous. 

I always thought it was kind of hilarious how many versions of the same religion sprouted out as time went on. Divisions of Christianity that break the rules of whatever it was and allow people to masturbate if you switch to my religion. Or whatever 

I’m a strange guy in many people’s eyes. My upbringing combined with my genetics have molded me into a person that doesn’t quite fit in or follow the norms of society. Whatever the reason behind some of these differences people seem to notice, my brain has justified many things that some would say shouldn’t have been justified, but it’s who I am and I have come to the understanding and acceptance of my quirks. 

People talk about ADHD or autism and occasionally the topic of cures comes up and whether or not people would be better off or worse off if they could medicate away their symptoms or get rid of them all together. The debate is currently heating up in the year 2024 as more and more people get on TikTok and discover that they too have had ADHD their entire lives and not known it. Instantly they explain away some of the strangeness that has either plagued them all their lives, or helps them deal with the life that they have carved out for themselves. Some of the symptoms of ADHD are benefits often referred to as superpowers and others are inconveniences often referred to as anxiety or mental illness or disabilities. 

More and more we are learning that it’s just a different brain type and awareness of it can allow people to change the way they live and react to the world. This has been something I’ve been thinking about my whole life before during end after changes in my self-confidence and self-awareness. I find watching tik Tok videos about it quite entertaining. And educational. 

I don’t conform to a lot of social norms and it’s interesting to think that perhaps they are just different norms. I don’t bathe much. I never used deodorant. I can wear the same jeans for a year. I think in my cult we would learn to understand that so many things in life we do because we think we’re supposed to. My room is a mess. It bothers some people. It doesn’t bother me and the mess is somewhat organized in that I know where things are even if they are under a pile of something else. The idea of putting them away in a drawer actually makes less sense than tossing them on the pile. To me. My bed contains items I will use without getting up. Too many people, this is a great sin. You should not eat on your bed. You should not have things sitting on your bed next to your pillow. I suspect that means they get up out of their bed frequently but I can literally spend the entire day without getting up out of my bed. There are people who would call that wrong, which to me is a strange concept. 

I don’t think there is a wrong way to be. To exist. Certainly there are things that infringe on other people’s rights. There is a right and wrong to society and how to act so that you don’t hurt or kill people among other things, but how I live my life and exist in my home can’t really be wrong. 

It’s a balance and mistakes might be made because I don’t think you should be able to walk around nude or influence the people around you negatively but the recent increase in Karen awareness goes too far in the other direction I believe. People are becoming or at least claiming to be offended by the silliest of things without even understanding the concept of what it means to be offended. 

Saying that’s not the way I would do it is not the same as being offended. I’m not sure how the dirty sheets on my bed or my pillowcases being less than white can offend someone. That seems more of them problem than a me problem. It becomes a me problem when they try to enforce it and the world seems to be moving in that direction allowing others to enforce how I live or reproduce or teach. 

There will be no homeowners association in the neighborhood of my cult. No Karen’s. If you are offended by the way someone else lives then you do not understand what it is to be a member of my cult. 

I’m not 100% certain that this isn’t just my brain justifying why I don’t clean my room or wash my bed sheets but on a deeper level it’s one of those things that I classify under why would I care. There are a lot of things I don’t care about that other people do. I don’t care about germs. People who do seem to get just as sick as people who don’t and people who are fit die just as frequently as people who are not fit and yet one of those groups gets to eat chocolate and gets to eat it while sitting in bed. 

So many of society’s rules take the fun out of things. Obsessing over those rules changes the way that people live and enjoy life. Not caring about those rules doesn’t necessarily create happiness, but it allows for it. I do my best not to worry about things I do not control and although I’m not 100% successful at this, I do understand that fear and worry are some of the strongest reasons that people around me seem unhappy. 

I’m not saying that there should be no rules, but there are certain aspects to our individuality that don’t need regulation. I suppose some would say this is a slippery slope and that if we don’t monitor everyone, then we can’t be assured they will not become scary and harm us in the future. Ironically that is an absolutely ideal example of one of the things that I don’t feel I need to worry about. 

I would say that my reaction if not every human’s reaction to tragedy and the horrors that can happen to any one of us is pretty much exactly the same whether we worried about it or not in advance. If something bad is going to happen to me, I can either let that thought ruin the days weeks months or years before it does by thinking about it, or I can be surprised by it when it happens if it happens. 

I call this the wall of tomorrow and it is a concept I have written about for years and talked about to my therapist. My philosophy of instant gratification and living life as it happens allows me to be worry-free for the most part and yet still be prepared for disaster when and if it comes. But surprisingly it often doesn’t come. When I get a negative thought I toss it over the wall of tomorrow. I ignore it. I try to ignore almost anything negative and have a pretty good success rate on complete avoidance of anything that makes me unhappy. A blissful ignorance isn’t guaranteed but I have managed to not worry about a lot of things and it has overall been a success. 

In my cult I will teach this philosophy. 

As I prepare to end this blog I reevaluate and wonder whether this all sounds insane. Many cults sound insane and have tiny little bits that people think about and agree with but it’s cluttered by the crazy parts. I’m sure the takeaway from this for many will be how disgusting it is to not shower for 2 months or more or to not use soap. To not actually wash dishes beyond a rinse. 

So many things in our society were invented long ago by marketing teams. Science tells us we shouldn’t be showering everyday and it’s actually bad for us. So many foods have been invented or marketed in such a way to make somebody money at the expense of health or beauty. So many things are completely fabricated as needs and everyone just accepts it. Dentists constantly told me I didn’t need toothpaste, but it was fine just to brush my gums with a dry brush and then offer to sell me one. 

I just saw a tick tock today that told me that milk from a cow’s utter was much better for me then the pasteurized milk you can buy in a store. Much better. 

Examples of this are everywhere and I’m not agreeing with anyone specific product or concept I am just saying that the norm isn’t necessarily a reason to do or eat or act. The norm is just what people do to feel comfortable in society and not stand out. A cult that allows for individuality and doesn’t conform to a norm could actually be a pretty cool new norm. 

If people weren’t afraid of the word cult. 

8:20 a.m. . Time to prep for my day.